Day 5 – Giving up my expectations

In any organization we are going to get out of it what we put into it. Why do we think churches are any different? It is a living organism full of people – flawed people – who are mostly doing their best to love each other and love God. But we walk in with preconceived ideas of what church should look like and when reality doesn’t measure up, we are quick to condemn, judge and criticize. Trust me – I’ve heard it. And though I’m not in leadership at a church right now, I still hear it. And I’m pretty sure I’m guilty of some of it too.

Here’s a partial list of unrealistic expectations:

• Pastors who don’t make more money that I do.
• Pastors’ kids who are always pleasant and respectful and would never behave like my kids do.
• Conservatives who stick to their guns on moral issues. (pun intended)
• Liberals who stick to their guns on social justice issues. (pun intended here too)
• No offensive comments from anyone, anytime, anywhere within the walls of the church.
• Music which appeals to me and me alone.
• No references to money. Ever.
• Clean, well-stocked bathrooms (including all toiletries necessary & maybe a shower stall too).
• No germs on any toys in the nursery.
• Adequately staffed children’s ministry – but don’t ever ask for help from me.
• Perfect harmonies.
• No feedback on the sound system.
• Sunday School teachers who know every Scripture reference.
• Perfect people.

But this is what I’ve learned:

If you go to church for what you can get out of it, you’ll be rewarded. You’ll get frustrated, disappointed, dissatisfied, and judgment.

If you go to church for what you can give, you’ll also be rewarded. You’ll leave with joy, faith, peace and love.

It really is all about motivation and attitude.

So today, I’m leaving my expectations at the door – actually I think I’ll dump them in the trash before I leave home. The only things I’m taking with me are an anticipation of basking in the presence of God and loving on some awesome people who are doing life with me. It’s gonna be a great day!