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All We Have is the En Dash

I grew up a quarter mile from a small rural cemetery. I often walked up the hill to wander through or play hide-and-seek amongst the gravestones. Though childhood friends frequently asked me if I was scared to live so close to a cemetery, I was never nervous or afraid. The gravestones were just markers of history, representations of real people who lived and died in my little part of the world. Most stones had more than one name etched in the granite, some whole families, with birth and death dates going back many decades.

Have you noticed how a gravestone’s birthdate and death date are always separated by a little line? That’s called an “en dash.” The en dash is used particularly between figures to show a range, like 1939–1945. It’s just a short dash with a very important job.

The en dash on a gravestone represents a whole life—everything that happens to a person between the time they are born and the time they die. As I grow older, I’ve meditated on my own en dash. Though I’m in no hurry to reach the end of life, it is closer than my birth date. And I believe we should all periodically think about how we live our everyday lives.

I love my life. I try to make intentional decisions to stay healthy in every aspect so I can fully appreciate the wonderful gifts God has given to me. My husband, children, grandchildren, friends, and extended family are all blessings. I enjoy my work, my church, my neighborhood, and my little home.

But am I living a fully flourishing life? Are there areas where I can do better, be better, grow stronger and wiser? Here are a few questions I’ve pondered as I live my en dash life:

  • How’s my physical health? Am I getting enough sleep? Do I try to move daily and maintain a healthy diet?
  • What brings me joy? Do I choose activities that challenge my mind? Do I talk to myself as a close friend or my worst enemy? What am I grateful for?
  • Are my relationships healthy and supportive? Where do I invest my time and talents? Do I have a community of friends and family with whom I can really connect?
  • Are my activities energizing and meaningful? What am I most proud of? Is it time to make a change in my career or commitments?
  • How do I spend my money? Am I in control of my finances? Am I prepared for any unexpected expenses?
  • How do I reflect the love of Christ in my sphere of influence? Am I pursuing a growing relationship with God? How about my spiritual disciplines?
  • Looking back on my life, do I have old habits and beliefs I can now let go of? Are there any dreams I’d like to pursue? What would I do if I didn’t fear failure?

As I enjoy each moment with my grandchildren, I’m so grateful for the life God has given me, but I also know I have a responsibility to live it with joy, grace, and wisdom.

And I want my en dash to represent a life lived fully flourishing for God and others.

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful. And now the prize awaits me—the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give me on the day of his return. And the prize is not just for me but for all who eagerly look forward to his appearing.

2 Timothy 4:7-8

the word flourish imposed over pictures of swaying palm trees

Bingo!

Does anyone else choose a “word of the year?” I have done so for the last several years, though, like New Year’s resolutions, I often forget my word by mid-February.

This year, my word is “Flourish,” and I’m being more intentional about incorporating its meaning into many of my activities.

I love every one of these definitions. There isn’t a bad one in the bunch. Thrive; grow (luxuriantly); be in my prime; be successful; prosper; make sweeping gestures; add embellishments or fanfare…yes, please!

What does the Bible say about flourishing?

12 The righteous will flourish like a palm tree,
    they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon;
13 planted in the house of the Lord,
    they will flourish in the courts of our God.
14 They will still bear fruit in old age,
    they will stay fresh and green,
15 proclaiming, “The Lord is upright;
    he is my Rock, and there is no wickedness in him.”

Psalm 92:12-15

What great verses as I navigate my 60s! The bold text is mine. How will I flourish? Like a palm tree, growing like a cedar of Lebanon, planted in God’s house. In other words, as I stay close to God, embracing His righteousness, I will thrive and grow. And not just as any old tree, but one that says fresh, green, and vibrant, bearing fruit even as I age. What an awesome promise!

Flourishing in my everyday life

However, knowing the definition and the Scriptures and putting this all into practice are very different. I’ve always been a planner (some would accurately say over-planner), so I sketched out a few activities for the first quarter of 2025. I’ve learned that setting goals for a whole year just sets me up for failure, but three months sounds doable.

I made a list of things I’d like to accomplish that will help me grow physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. When I discussed my list with a co-worker, she mentioned something she was doing in her own life—a bingo card of goals for 2025.

I’ve always loved bingo. Consequently, in keeping with my quarterly emphasis, I created a Flourish Bingo card for the first quarter of 2025.

I set quite a few physical goals, such as walking, hiking, drinking, and a weekly Apple Fitness workout, but I also included some home management, recreation, relationship, and spiritual habits to round out my card.

My daily Bible reading, gratitude journaling, and prayer are non-negotiables. I love to learn more about God, so I created a square for taking a Right Now Media class each quarter.

I just now found a calligraphy class, but it won’t fit into this quarter—I’ll move it to the fall or winter when I’ll want more indoor activities. Writing today’s blog fulfills the “write one blog a month ” requirement, so I’ll be marking that square off as soon as I hit “publish.”

To be clear, I did not hit all these goals, and I knew I wouldn’t when I set up the card. But “someday” goals are still important. Maybe I didn’t get to spend a weekend away with Don yet this year, but I can put it back on my second-quarter card and try again.

And I also learned that just because I really, really want to accomplish something, I can’t do it all. I must prioritize; therefore, finishing taxes came before watercolor practice.

I couldn’t decide what I’d “win” if I got a BINGO. Maybe just the satisfaction of marking off each square. But I did it! I got a bingo, and I still have a few more days left in the quarter.

What’s the point?

First, who I am today matters. I’m not trying to reinvent myself, but no one is too old to try new things or find fun new ways to hit goals. Secondly, if I’m serious about flourishing, I’ve got to consciously make good choices. If I want to flourish in my “old age,” I need to stay close to Jesus, rooted in His Word, and intentional about my health, relationships, and free time.

Any advice for new squares to add in future quarters?

“Watch, Daddy!”

I spent some precious time with my granddaughter (L), son, daughter-in-law, and husband yesterday walking around a downtown neighborhood. It was a gorgeous day with sunshine and higher-than-normal temperatures. The kind of day that called for ice cream, walks, and playground playing. So we did all of the above.

The playground area we encountered wasn’t much…just a few plastic logs and big mushroom shapes to climb on. Since my beautiful granddaughter is only 2-and-a-half, I carefully helped her climb up, keeping her sweet little hand in mine the whole time. But she’s a brave little thing, and once she mastered moving from object to object, she became less and less tentative. But her hand stayed attached to mine. Neither one of us was willing to let go.

Once she had made it to the highest point (about 3 feet off the ground), she smiled and basked in the glory of the “You did it!” affirmations she heard from all of us. Then Grandma would swoop her up and twirl her around before setting her feet safely on the worn mulch padding of the little play area. And I would hear, “Again!” So we did it again and again and again. I was happy to make her happy. That’s what grandmas do.

Grandma and little L holding hands, climbing up, working her way from object to object, getting to the high point, and swooping off in swirls of giggles. Soon it wasn’t enough to just have Grandma’s undivided attention. We needed everyone to focus on her accomplishments. So the chorus of “Watch, Daddy!” sounded almost before Grandma’s swirling, twirling touch down.

“Watch, Daddy!” and then “Watch, Mama!” and then “Watch, Grandpa!”

“I’m watching, baby,” confirmed Daddy…or Mama…or Grandpa, depending on which one was being called out. But she wanted to make sure.

“Are you watching me? Are you seeing me climb high? Did you watch me flying through the air? Is your attention focused on me?”

I couldn’t help but hear my own children repeating those same words when they were young. And I’m sure I did it too. We all want others to see our accomplishments and celebrate with us. And sometimes, others are looking away, or concentrating on whatever caught their attention for a moment. Honestly, we can’t expect people to be watching us 24/7, waiting for our next big moment. But…we kind of do, don’t we?

And then I remembered. We have Someone who never looks away…not even for a moment. He sees us reach the top, He watches each step, He holds our hand, He celebrates our accomplishments and mourns with us through grief and failure.

God will never leave us or forget us. He doesn’t get distracted or need to divide His attention with someone else’s problem or issue. He can pay attention to us and everyone else all at the same time!

Parents (and grandparents) do all they can to protect, provide, affirm, and celebrate, but they are only human and can’t be everywhere at once. But God can…and does. He knows what you need before you know it…and will hold your hand as you climb higher and celebrate with you all your big and little wins. Just call out to Him.

“Watch, Daddy!”

Crazy Times

Unless you’ve lived on a deserted island for the last six months, your life has been impacted by COVID-19, the novel coronavirus currently sweeping over our world. This is no place to put statistics—mostly because they change every moment—but by now, you probably know of someone who has tested positive for the virus. Hollywood celebrities, sports figures, politicians, missionaries, doctors —no one is immune. It gives no distinction for race or gender, age or ethnicity, economic status or occupation. We are at war with a silent, but deadly enemy, and right now, it’s winning.

Our schools are closed, our favorite restaurants unable to host diners, our churches attempting online services. We are learning new terminology every day. Pandemic. Self-isolation. Self-quarantine. Social distancing. Community spread. Shelter in place. PPE. The more fragile members of our society are most susceptible so we’ve given them special times to shop when they would be less exposed. Online shopping is flourishing as we choose to stay at home to minimize the risk. The world is nothing like we’ve ever seen it before.

So, what do I do?

I pray. I follow the guidelines set in place by my local, state, and national officials. I keep the TV off most of the time. I post encouragement on social media sites. I check in with my kids, my extended family, and my friends at work and church.

And sometimes I’m afraid. But not for long.

Fear is a liar. Fear spreads faster than any virus, and infects anyone who entertains it. If fed, fear will lead to stress, anxiety, and depression. And I will not invite those three ugly emotions into my house.

In the darkness of the night, after my usual bathroom trip, I sometimes lie awake while sleep alludes me. It’s then that I am most vulnerable to fear. It’s then that I must rely on the power of the Word of God I’ve spent my whole life studying. One night last week I was gripped by worry – about my kids (who work in the grocery industry), about my co-worker (who was in Scotland on vacation), about our church friends who are older and sometimes don’t listen when told to stay home. So I started praying, asking God to overcome the fear with His Word. I quoted 2 Timothy 1:7 – For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. Or Psalm 27:1- The Lord is my light and my salvation; Whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; Of whom shall I be afraid?

I posted about it that night

What will tonight look like? I don’t know. What will tomorrow look like? Unknown.

I may not know the future, but I know Who holds my future. I’ll trust in the One who doesn’t need to worry about social distancing. My heavenly Father holds me close – and He’ll hold you too. Trust in Him. Follow all the guidelines. Be a kind person. Wash your hands. But ultimately, our destiny lies with God. And I’m good with that.

 

 

Way – Truth – Life

John 14 verse 6 gives us three more names for Jesus.

Read this verse emphasizing the word THE. It is singular – there is no other way, no other truth, no other life, apart from Jesus. For those of us who believe all the red words in the Bible, you can spin it no other direction. How can we access God? Jesus. What is truth? Jesus. What does this life mean? Jesus.

Anointed One

Other years I’ve blogged through the days of Lent. This year it’s time for something different. Though I love writing, I also enjoy taking photographs, so this year, I’ll be posting pictures of my interpretation of the many names of Jesus

Christ, from Christos, meaning “Anointed One”

Ash Wednesday is a Christian holy day of prayer and fasting. Some choose to abstain from food, some decide to stop a certain behavior or habit. One year I have fasted coffee. It was ugly.

But Lent isn’t about food, or fasting, or ashes. It’s all about preparing our hearts for the ultimate sacrifice – Jesus. The Christ. The Anointed One.

Matthew 16:16 – You are the Christ, the Son of the Living God.

My New Year Focus

Now that 2019 is in my rear view mirror, I’ve set my focus forward. Each New Year’s Day I set goals for my year, begin a new Bible reading guide, plan ways to improve or change behavior or attitudes. Today is no different, and yet it is. As I approach my 60th birthday, I’m not as interested in improvement and change as I am with celebrating what’s already a part of my life. Yes – I still desire to grow and learn each day, but I also know God has done some amazing things in my life, given me wonderful relationships to nurture, gifts to be grateful for. I’m going to FOCUS this year – focus on what is right in front of me and do what is necessary to live in grace and walk in love.

My 2020 devotional by Bob Goff

Still have a daily Bible reading guide (two, actually) and habits to maintain (daily movement, healthy lifestyle choices), so this year is going to be my best one yet as I FOCUS on God, His plan for me, and the people He has put into my life.

Happy New Year!

Let Go of Regrets

None of us want to have regrets in life. I want to live each day so when I look back, I can say I have no regrets. But I also realize that may not be totally reasonable. We all make mistakes. Maybe it’s as little as eating too much cake and cookies over these holidays (definitely) or sitting more than moving (maybe) or choosing my own comfort over someone else’s (probably). Maybe you’ve lived a life full of things you now regret. I hope you know it is not too late to change, to choose better moving forward, to ask and receive forgiveness, and to extend to yourself a wonderful gift: Grace.

My pastor reminded me today that our past (good or bad) does not define our future. God has a new thing for you – a path, adventure, purpose beyond anything you can imagine. Don’t allow regrets to keep you from saying “yes” to whatever God has for you. Don’t keep looking in your rear view mirror – you’re not going that way.

Milkweed seeds ready to fly

Monument to life

Reflection is necessary occasionally.

The colors of sunset – dramatic reminder of a full day

Grateful Every Day

Merry Christmas!

I hope you are able to celebrate this wonderful holiday commemorating the birth of Jesus.

You may be surrounded by family or alone today. You may be suffering with sickness or watching someone you love going through the ravages of a disease. You may be sitting in the midst of a wrapping paper mountain or didn’t have enough money for even one gift.

Jesus is your answer. Rich or poor, Jesus came for all of us. Those surrounded by loving family & those homeless and destitute of love. Those suffering & those watching someone we love suffering. Those grieving. Those anxious & depressed. Those who have all money can buy, yet ache with loneliness and despair. Jesus loves you.

Allow Jesus to heal your heart today. Allow His perfect peace to flood your soul. He may not change every circumstance, but He’ll be with you in the midst of it. Call out to Him – He is there to meet you. He wants you at His birthday party!

Friday’s Five

It’s the Friday before Christmas and I’m swamped with a to-do list longer than any naughty-or-nice list Santa’s looking at today. Which means – how do I blog AND get my other stuff done. Came up with this: Friday’s Five. I’m offering five quick “what I’ve learned in my six decades of life” tidbits of wisdom. Take it or leave it.

  • Try new things.

We all get stuck in routines. Routines are absolutely necessary but occasionally, get out of your personal rut and try something new. A new route to work, a new restaurant, a new item at your old restaurant, a new coffee shop, a museum you’ve never visited, give blood for the first time, ring the bell for Salvation Army’s Red Kettle campaign, walk a new path, take a vacation to a different destination. These are all new things I’ve tried in the last five years. A couple of those new things have become new routines (I give blood every 8 weeks, and ring that little bell every Christmas) and I’m always looking for something else to try to push my comfort boundaries.

  • Don’t eat meat with an expired date.

Seems like a no-brainer, right? Maybe I should have said, “check the expiration date of any meat product before consuming.” No explanation necessary. Live and learn. At least I lived, though I felt like death warmed over for a while.

  • Visit national, state, and county parks as much as possible.

img_3853My brother and sister-in-law took me to my first national park in September of 2016. And my second. And my third. All in the space of three days. That whirlwind tour was life-changing. God is out there, people. Check out His creation in the wide open spaces. Or the deep dark forests. Or the windswept prairie. Or the little path through the woods. I will never be the same. I will never view God the same. I’ve thanked Alan and Victoria multiple times, but I can never express adequately what that trip meant to me.

  • Watch someone else’s kids play sports, perform in a play, or sing/play in a concert.

We all love our own kids best. It’s natural. But there is something so wonderful about cheering for other people’s kids. They light up. Their parents light up. Everyone needs a cheerleader – be one for someone else’s children. And it will change YOU.  Love for others grows your heart.

  • Go without occasionally.

If you have enough money to purchase whatever you want, don’t. Live with less. Say “no” to that voice- the one that says, “you must have this.” Give yourself a day or two – find out if that thing you so desire on Friday is still necessary on Monday. Show your kids that living with less can be freeing, gratifying, enjoyable. Stuff clutters. And I’m still working on this one.

Have a wonderful weekend!