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“Watch, Daddy!”

I spent some precious time with my granddaughter (L), son, daughter-in-law, and husband yesterday walking around a downtown neighborhood. It was a gorgeous day with sunshine and higher-than-normal temperatures. The kind of day that called for ice cream, walks, and playground playing. So we did all of the above.

The playground area we encountered wasn’t much…just a few plastic logs and big mushroom shapes to climb on. Since my beautiful granddaughter is only 2-and-a-half, I carefully helped her climb up, keeping her sweet little hand in mine the whole time. But she’s a brave little thing, and once she mastered moving from object to object, she became less and less tentative. But her hand stayed attached to mine. Neither one of us was willing to let go.

Once she had made it to the highest point (about 3 feet off the ground), she smiled and basked in the glory of the “You did it!” affirmations she heard from all of us. Then Grandma would swoop her up and twirl her around before setting her feet safely on the worn mulch padding of the little play area. And I would hear, “Again!” So we did it again and again and again. I was happy to make her happy. That’s what grandmas do.

Grandma and little L holding hands, climbing up, working her way from object to object, getting to the high point, and swooping off in swirls of giggles. Soon it wasn’t enough to just have Grandma’s undivided attention. We needed everyone to focus on her accomplishments. So the chorus of “Watch, Daddy!” sounded almost before Grandma’s swirling, twirling touch down.

“Watch, Daddy!” and then “Watch, Mama!” and then “Watch, Grandpa!”

“I’m watching, baby,” confirmed Daddy…or Mama…or Grandpa, depending on which one was being called out. But she wanted to make sure.

“Are you watching me? Are you seeing me climb high? Did you watch me flying through the air? Is your attention focused on me?”

I couldn’t help but hear my own children repeating those same words when they were young. And I’m sure I did it too. We all want others to see our accomplishments and celebrate with us. And sometimes, others are looking away, or concentrating on whatever caught their attention for a moment. Honestly, we can’t expect people to be watching us 24/7, waiting for our next big moment. But…we kind of do, don’t we?

And then I remembered. We have Someone who never looks away…not even for a moment. He sees us reach the top, He watches each step, He holds our hand, He celebrates our accomplishments and mourns with us through grief and failure.

God will never leave us or forget us. He doesn’t get distracted or need to divide His attention with someone else’s problem or issue. He can pay attention to us and everyone else all at the same time!

Parents (and grandparents) do all they can to protect, provide, affirm, and celebrate, but they are only human and can’t be everywhere at once. But God can…and does. He knows what you need before you know it…and will hold your hand as you climb higher and celebrate with you all your big and little wins. Just call out to Him.

“Watch, Daddy!”

Dear Lennon,

I love you, dear one, more than I thought possible. As my first grandchild, you will always hold a special piece of my heart. 💜I’m trying very hard to make good choices now so I can be present in your life as you grow up.

On this day, your original due date, I thought I’d make you a few promises.

I promise to:

*always love you no matter if I agree with you.

*support & encourage your mom & dad as they raise you to love God and others.

*tell you about Jesus & the unconditional love God has for you, His precious beautiful child.

*pray for you everyday.

*hug & kiss you, but not intentionally embarrass you.

*make mistakes and ask forgiveness.

*tell stories, read books, sing songs and dance with abandon.

*adventure & discover new things with you.

*live my life with gratitude & joy, knowing I am an example in what I say & do.

*teach you the tools you’ll need to grow strong and brave and smart.

*encourage you with words & actions.

*listen to you, laugh with you, and always hold your hand as you hold my heart.

All my love,

Grandma (or whatever cute name you end up calling me) 🥰

“Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”
‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭11:19‬ ‭NIV
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Baby Bump and Bubble Wrap

Maybe you haven’t heard but I’m going to be a grandma, for the first time, in late August. We found out on Christmas Eve and let’s just say…it’s been consuming our thoughts ever since. Not only do I have to come up with a grandma name (more in another blog) but we’ve even been rethinking our home renovations in consideration of little feet navigating our house.

Expectant mother
Baby McGarvey in mid-March

I’ve noticed that as my beautiful daughter-in-law’s baby bump grows each day, I get a little more emotional. She’s so happy and just glowing from this pregnancy. It is a dream come true and Don and I recognize the big changes coming, not just for them, but also for us.

I’ve noticed that I’ve become more protective, more prayerful. I feel more in need of assurance that God is watching and caring and growing this little life, who is already so loved. I want to just surround Tristen in bubble wrap to protect her from sadness and pain, from the hurts that come with being a mom.

I wish she wouldn’t have childbirth pain (and I’m sure she’s with me on that one), but any mom will tell you that the reward far outweighs the initial suffering. I pray for Tristen’s health and the health of her baby. I pray her little one will sleep well and nurse easily, but odds are there will be bumps (pun intended) along the way. My prayers change each day, but I know God loves that little one even more than I do and that’s almost unfathomable to me.

I’ve figured out that the magic protective bubble wrap is really my prayers, and those of Tristen, David, Don and everyone who loves this couple. God has it all under control and He always has. There is no change coming that God isn’t already preparing us for. These nine months in the womb are as much for us as for that growing child.

I guess I’m not quite ready to be a grandma…but I will be by the time that little loved one shows up!

Our New Adventure

It was officially announced yesterday, though I’ve known for almost two months. I learned a lot about myself in that time. First, I suck at keeping secrets. Especially secrets that are so huge, so amazing, so exciting that my lips just tremble with anticipation as I contemplate spewing out the details. More accurately, I suck at the thought of keeping such a long-sought-after answer to prayer. But I did it. For the most part.

The second thing I learned about myself is I haven’t been adequately prepared for this new adventure. I haven’t spent any time considering the important decisions that need to be made. But, though I’m behind on the timeline, I’m a fast learner and I can google with the best of them.

So, you ask, what is this big announcement? What has caused me to self-reflect about secret keeping and adventure preparing?

If you follow me or members of my family on Facebook or Instagram, you already know the details and the last few paragraphs have been exercises in “get to the point already!” I’m sure you’re thinking this even if you don’t follow me on social media.

I’m going to be a grandma.

Baby announcement
Official Facebook announcement of new baby.

My oldest son and daughter-in-law have been trying to get pregnant for a few years. It has been a frustrating and often sorrow-filled journey for them through infertility treatments, surgery, and some “well, let’s try this and see what happens” procedures. In the end, it could have been an overlooked symptom of a somewhat common problem. Those details are for my sweet DIL to share if she wants. But ultimately, we believe God’s faithfulness prevailed and the little McGarvey is due in late August.

(side note: for this blog, and any in the future, my daughter-in-law will be referred to as T and my son as D. They didn’t sign up to be talked about here so I’ll give them some anonymity until I get their permission.)

Of course, we are all ecstatic! This will be the first grandbaby on my side of the family. We are looking forward to pregnancy normalcies like food cravings and abdomen expansions. Actually, I’m looking forward to T experiencing these things—not me. I’m done with all that. Well, not the food cravings. Pizza and chocolate still call out my name periodically.

I have many, many examples of wonderful grandparents who I’ve experienced or observed through the years. And I’m looking forward to researching this grandparenting adventure, as I did when I determined to be a non-stereotypical mother-in-law.

So, as my (our) adventure begins (with Don in tow, of course), I’ll be blogging about the path God has us on. Hitch a ride if you’d like. I’m planning to extract all the wonder and joy available in this, my rookie grandma season.

Tune in next time for my first big decision—what will be my grandma name?